Jenny Sanford, wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, filed for divorce today.
She has been hailed by some as incredibly strong throughout the drama of her husband’s escapade with an Argentine mistress. Apparently, the Sanfords attempted reconciliation, but it didn’t work out. In the New York Times article, Mark Sanford is quoted as saying:
“Jenny is a great person,” he said, “and has been a remarkable wife, mother and first lady. She has been more than gracious these last six months and gone above and beyond in her patience and commitment to put the needs of others in front of her own. While our family structure may change, I know that we will both work earnestly to be the best mom and dad we can be to four of the finest boys on earth.”
Mark Sanford can say how remarkable his wife is but still not completely submit to the recovery and reconciliation process. Why? He is a delusional, self-centered love and sex addict.
It remains to be seen what will happen in the Tiger Woods saga, but Elin Nordegren, his wife, has reportedly made arrangements to return to her native Sweden and take her two children with her. i would say Elin might want to take a page from Jenny Sanford’s playbook. Remove herself, surround herself with a strong support structure and see just what Tiger is willing to do regarding reconciliation.
Jenny Sanford was always available to work things out with her husband, and tried. Mark Sanford insisted on playing politics instead.
To what lengths will Tiger be willing to go? i hope he takes a different course than Mark Sanford. The initial signs are encouraging. The New York Times had this piece today. Tiger seems to “get it” when he says:
“After much soul searching, I have decided to take an indefinite break from professional golf,” the statement continued. “I need to focus my attention on being a better husband, father, and person.”
The slogan for me in the early years of facing my addiction was: “Whatever it takes.” i didn’t come up with it on my own, but it became my mantra. It had to be that way for me; it has to be that way for any addict.
i hope Tiger Woods learns what Mark Sanford, so far, has not.