John Eldredge writes:
The greatest enemy of holiness is not passion; it is apathy. Look at Jesus. He was no milksop. His life was charged with passion. After he drove the crooks from the temple, “his disciples remembered that it is written: ‘Zeal for your house will consume me'” (John 2:17). This isn’t quite the pictures we have in Sunday school, Jesus with a lamb and a child or two, looking for all the world like Mr. Rogers with a beard. The world’s nicest guy. He was something far more powerful. He was holy.
There was about them a hint of apathy or disinterest.
But abstaining from pornography is only the first of many steps toward living out our identities as men made in the image of God. We must also be pursuers. Our wives don’t want us _ and more than that: God does not want us _ to become dispassionate.
The issue always returns to how our passions are directed. As men we will find something to pursue with our whole hearts. It might be sports or any one of a million possible hobbies. We are worshippers.
If we align our hearts with God and worship Him, our passions will hit the right targets: God Himself; our wives; the values of His Kingdom.
Apathy kills our souls and the souls of the ones we love.