fighting for free hearts

Luke Gilkerson Of Covenant Eyes: Porn Is An Idol

Luke Gilkerson of Breaking Free, the blog for Covenant Eyes, has a guest post today at the blog More Than Desire, which serves women whose husbands are addicted to pornography.

Luke tells his story and puts his porn use in terms of idolatry, which is precisely how we need to think of it.

This section, toward the conclusion of his piece, has really good wisdom in it:

Over the years my addiction had proven this proverb to be true: “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water…” (Proverbs 20:5). Many times I had no idea why I was doing what I was going. I was unable to see my real motives. I knew something dark was lurking within me, like something hidden deep in the ocean, but I could not see it. So Solomon finishes the proverb: “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.”

Solomon is telling us: Find a close, wise friend, or a group of close and wise friends who can walk alongside you and help you discern what really makes you tick. Find friends who know how to get beneath the surface. Find people you can do life with. Find people who can really know you and know how to counsel you.

With skillful questions and probing thoughts a good friend drops a bucket deep into our hearts and draws out observations about ourselves which we are afraid to admit, even things we have never noticed before. A man of understanding thinks deeper than just what you said or did. He knows how to probe beneath the surface and find the idols.

Now years later I experience a type of freedom from sin I’ve never felt before. To be sure, I still unearth new idols from the recesses of my heart. I still am prone to lust. But I am learning to identify my idols and not lift my heart to them. I am learning to seek the face of the God of Jacob (Psalm 24:3-6).

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