It’s that time of year when people make all sorts of new year’s resolutions.
Depending on who you believe, 80 percent of people fail at their resolutions in short order, or 40 to 60 percent of people actually keep their resolutions.
As a porn addict for many years i was really good at making New Year’s resolutions. Each year, as December wound to a close — yet another dismal close as i was enslaved to pornography — i looked at January 1 as the start of something great. This time i was really going to do it; i was going to break free from the grip of my addiction.
i failed every time. One year, i failed almost as soon as i had started: i bought a porn magazine on New Year’s Day, shortly after i had eaten lunch.
The missing element for me was simple, now that i have had time to look back with 20/20 hindsight. i was relying on my own strength and determination to win a battle that was not merely a physical conflict. It was a spiritual battle that i attempted to win in the flesh. A recipe for disaster.
That’s not to say that there isn’t some crucial part for determination and resolve in the battle. In fact, making choices and exerting self control must be in the battle plan. But willpower alone will never accomplish true freedom where addiction to pornography, lust and masturbation are concerned.
Perhaps the resolution this year should be: i will learn to fight well. i will be an intentional warrior.