fighting for free hearts

Porn And Chocolate

Most women i have met have a very difficult time understanding the powerful pull of pornography on men. My wife, even after years of talking through the issues with me, still can throw her hands in the air in frustration that men are so tempted by porn.

Certainly there is growing statistical information which indicates that women get addicted to pornography, and Crystal Renaud of Dirty Girls Ministries is one example. Renaud cites statistics that put the level of porn addiction among women at 18 to 20 percent. That’s much higher than i would have guessed, but that’s the percentage she quotes.

Nevertheless, that still means that more men are hooked on porn, and that means that a large percentage of women will continue to be astonished by the struggles men face.

Once when i was watching television with my wife, and ad came on for a show and the promo featured some shots of young women in bikinis.  My wife, frustrated, turned to me with disdain and said: “Don’t you men ever get tired of that?”

i paused, trying to think of a good way to help her appreciate the draw men feel.

Then i said: “Do you ever get tired of chocolate?”

The look on her face said it all.  Something clicked for her.  Not everybody struggles with the same things, but we all have some struggle that can be overwhelming.

i was not excusing porn addiction by any means.  And i never will. There is a place, however, for understanding our brokenness and extending grace.

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