In short, it is shocking the things we who have been, or are still addicted, do to our wives.
The selfishness. The crushing of their feminine hearts. It is emotional abuse.
And the longer i have been clean from pornography the more i can comprehend the brutality of what my addiction did to my wife’s emotions.
When i was addicted, i now see, i was slowly destroying her beauty. My continual lusting created an intolerable situation for her: She was a victim of my passivity as a man and she would never compare with the women i was looking at in porn. But more than that, the wounds i was medicating with porn had nothing to do with her, actually, and yet i was inflicting punishment on her for those very wounds.
She was in a no-win situation. It wasn’t her fault at all that i was addicted, and still she bore terrible consequences anyway.