Porn Is Bad For Marriages

By Recuore, June 18, 2012

Breaking Free, the blog of Covenant Eyes, recently had two posts related to porn and marriage.

The first was about how porn is bad for marriage. Many men, even Christian ones, mistakenly believe that their porn consumption isn’t hurting anyone. It’s not hurting their wives and it’s certainly not hurting themselves. And some get even more twisted into thinking that their porn use actually helps the marriage because it’s a way to deal with the very real fact that husbands normally have much higher sex drives than their wives.

This is wrong thinking. Any husband who uses porn is really hurting his wife in profound and deep ways, as Breaking Free discusses here.

Porn is devastating to women. There are no winners. Even the women who are the objects of porn, performing for the camera, are devastated by it.

But it is especially devastating to our wives because porn attacks them at the deepest level of their beauty. A husband who uses porn is rejecting his wife. Women long to know that they are lovely, desirable and have a beauty that is honored. A wife, particularly, needs to know that her husband chooses her above all others.

Porn destroys all of that.

And porn is terrible training for marriage because it teaches men to be selfish consumers of sex, rather than men who have a strength of will and character who will cherish their wives’ deep beauty and guard their hearts from the devastation that pornography causes.