The devastation and heartbreak a wife feels when she discovers that her husband is looking at porn is profound, and rightly so. A husband’s porn indulgence is betrayal at the deepest level of the heart.
The rejection of her beauty and femininity is total.
Naturally, she wants him to stop looking at porn, and beyond that, to stop preferring other women.
Hopefully, he pursues change and stops his porn use. If he does that, eventually his desire will be only for his wife. This is good and right; it’s the way it should be.
But very often that presents the wife with a new “problem;” namely, she may not actually be able to deal with being the sole object of her husband’s sexual desire. Many men have intense sex drives which surprise their wives because they are so interested in sex. The frequency with which a man seeks sex with his wife may actually overwhelm her.
Before, the husband took his desire to porn. And because of that, the wife had no idea how strong her husband’s desire was.
Now, the husband only takes his desire to his wife.
It creates one of those so-called “good” problems. If a couple reaches this stage, it is very important that they have good communication about desire.