For men in general, and addicts in particular, there is not overstating the importance of having our identity solidly in Christ.
It’s easy to look to all the wrong things for satisfaction and a sense of purpose. But only with our identity established in our true position as sons of God — often referred to as Sonship — are we ever going to have the true security we crave.
For addicts, especially sex and porn addicts, identity and Sonship are core issues. We run to porn because we have forgotten who we are. Or worse, we never have known our true identity.
When we recognize our sonship in full faith, we drown fear and doubt, we stop division and inequality in its tracks, and we become free from the desire to conform to this temporal world. The fleeting and the physical, no longer has any hold over us.
The idea that the fleeting and the physical of the temporal world will no longer have hold on us is almost too good to imagine for the addict. How is that really possible?
It’s possible because the man who is living with full awareness of his Sonship knows that it is the Father who supplies us with all our needs. It is in Him that we triumph, in Him we find strength, and in Him we are made complete.
The flight to pornography is always an attempt to find our strength and a sense of being complete — i.e.. not lacking anything — in what the world offers rather than in God.
Porn plays on our lack of understanding regarding Sonship. But a growing awareness of our Sonship will lead us to freedom from pornography’s pull of death.