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The Porn Conspiracy?

Crisis Magazine, which i had never heard of until today, had a piece about what it called the conspiracy of pornography.

i am not necessarily endorsing every aspect of the article, but the writer does a great job of showing the heart of pornography as being much deeper than mere depictions of nudity and sex.

Specifically, the writer says:

The poison that makes pornography deadly is everywhere. The attitude and addiction associated with pornography is endemic in our society. The blights of passive vanity and sterile pleasures thrive in many different forms; forms which many deem harmless but are, in fact, wolves in sheep’s clothing.

This observation takes us deeper into the inner workings of pornography; the things that drive it and often drive us as partakers of it.

“Passive vanity,” is a great phrase; it accurately describes what is happening when a man lives in a pornographic fantasy world.  The anesthetizing power of pornography often makes men intolerably passive.  And for the ones who become uncontrollably aggressive — as frightening and horrible as that aggression is — there is still a core of passive vanity operating. Uncontrollably aggressive men are vain (definitions: (1) “having or showing an excessively high opinion of one’s appearance, abilities or worth” and (2) “useless”) and their aggression masks their passivity with regard to the issues and relationships that truly matter.

Men who are into pornography get lost in a world of insignificance. Their aggression, whatever form that takes, is often an attempt to show that they are not passive and not insignificant. It’s important for us to see through that.

Another gem from the piece is this:

Pornography, in all its forms, robs people of their innocence through the elimination of mystery, crippling the ability to wonder and take authentic pleasure in beauty. Cynicism quickly develops as a defensive posture, and the rest is downhill. Whether this damage is caused by filth or by Facebook the cause and effect are the same: the fantasy—or blasphemy—of reality results in a loss of appetite for reality.

Pornography always, always, always robs us of our ability to wonder and take pleasure in authentic beauty. i realized this in the first year following my confession and coming clean to my wife. As i was working on my issues, getting healing and pursuing change, i started to notice authentic beauty.  Pornography had created in me a brutal, sarcastic cynic. i had only an appetite for my base experience of pornography that became less and less pleasurable even as it was my addiction that i couldn’t be without.

But authentic beauty slowly was restored as i put pornography to death in my life.

Is pornography a conspiracy? It destroys beauty; it creates vain and passive men; and it is the height of self-worship. That’s a good start towards a conspiracy.

2 Responses to “The Porn Conspiracy?”

  1. Steven

    Thanks for sharing this…I work with men and families in dealing with porn and am always looking for info that is out there.

    Reply

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