Caroline responds to my post ‘Pornified? It’s Elementary.’
I actually liked the Sherlock Holmes bit. He was saying this to a former prostitute, to say, that he did not think her past was a blemish on her character, she was merely selling something like any merchant, but sadly, society at large does not see it that way. It does see it that way for men though, for example, if a man was a stripper before, it does not detract from his character, because it is assumed that his body was his to give to the audiences. I am not sure what is right here, and definitely trafficking and exploitation exists and is a f***ing disease of the world, and nobody should close their eyes to that, but anyone that does not shame people or automatically assume they were victims for doing sex work is doing something right, I reckon.
She raises a valid point as it relates to shame. My point in my post was something entirely different.
But since Caroline mentioned shame, it’s important for me to say that the very core of my work in Intentional Warriors is not to shame anyone.
What i was writing about in the original post was the way in which Sherlock was affirming the sexual ethos of our time that sex is a commodity. That view has hurt us deeply.
The issue of shame related to that is something altogether different. If anyone would have reason for shame, it would be myself: a porn addict for more than 12 years who nearly ruined his marriage, the lives of his children and countless others who were connected to my life at the time.
But shame is not what this is about at all. Freedom and new life are the point.
As for Caroline’s thoughts on society’s acceptance male sexual activity versus that of women, i can only say that to whatever extent a double standard exists, it’s wrong.
i am glad Caroline agrees that sex trafficking is a disease. My point is that attitude that sex is a commodity supports the existence of sex trafficking.
Again, shame is not the goal. If anything, it’s shame that prevents people from getting the help they need, whether that be the addict who needs freedom or a sex-trafficked person who needs freedom.
The issue is real freedom, and shame does not serve that purpose.