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The Collateral Damage Of Porn

Earlier this summer Tim Challies posted something on pornography which is really spot on.

Using the term Pornolescence, Challies describes a situation that many people get into with regard to their addictive patterns with pornography. Pornolescence, Challies says, is:

Pornolescence is that period when a person is old enough and mature enough to know that pornography is wrong and that it exacts a heavy price, but too immature or too apathetic to do anything about it. Pornolescence is that period where he feels the guilt of his sin, but still enjoys it too much to give it up. He may make the occasional plea for help, or install Covenant Eyes (but keep a workaround for when he’s really burning up), or ask for an accountability partner. But he doesn’t really want to stop.

i have been in that exact place.  And i know other men who have spent years in Pornolescence.

The whole situation is crushing; it devastates the man and the woman in his life — whether he is married or simply in a serious relationship.

Challies goes on to say that Pornolescence is stealing the best years from many Christians, particularly the younger generation of believers.

i remember coming to that humbling and demoralizing realization in my own life.  About a year or so into my healing journey, when i finally had some sobriety and could see my own life clearly, i understood for the first time how my 20s and early 30s had been so marked by pornography that much of my youth had been wasted.

Certainly there were still things God did in those years that were good in my life, my marriage and in the lives of others to whom i had ministered.

But i was struck then by the overwhelming loss that was caused by my 12-year addiction to porn. It was impossible to ignore.

In Proverbs Chapter 5, a chapter devoted to the pitfalls of immoral sex, verses 8-10 (NIV) say this about what we are to do with regard to the adulteress:

8 Keep to a path far from her,
    do not go near the door of her house,
lest you lose your honor to others
    and your dignity[a] to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth
    and your toil enrich the house of another.

 

Those of us who have had addictive patterns with pornography know how true Proverbs is here.

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