fighting for free hearts

Porn = Envy = Futility

Pornography is, among other things, the destruction of beauty.

Or, perhaps more accurately stated, it is the attempt to destroy beauty.

Beauty actually cannot be destroyed. It is timeless, irrepressible and ubiquitous. It is also essential.

But oh how it takes a beating. Through hatred, envy and selfishness, beauty gets trampled.

Our world, even as it obsesses about beauty on the internet or television or in the movies, is also so quick to — wittingly or unwittingly — sow the seeds of beauty’s downfall.

On the one hand, beauty is promoted endlessly through all forms of media. Ironically, that constant promotion also sullies beauty, because it breeds vast discontent.  The message is clear: you aren’t beautiful enough. There’s someone — or many someones — much more beautiful than you.

That message is primarily aimed at women. The pain brought on by that message is devastating.

For men, the connection is that we all want the beauty. We want to win her and know that she is ours. Just as women struggle with the fear and pressure not being beautiful enough, men then struggle with the discontentment of thinking that the beauty they have won is not beautiful enough.

It’s crass, but men often think they can find a more beautiful woman. This explains the men in their 40s and 50s who leave their wives for women half their age.

Discontent, unchecked, always leads to Envy. Envy eats a person from the inside even as it emits toxins that infect other people. Envy is not a private act, it poisons all relationships.

Pornography is the wholesale marketing and promotion of Envy. You can never get enough. There is always something hotter out there that you are chasing. That chase has no finish line.

But genuine beauty is an antidote to Envy. It comes from the heart of God Himself. It is born out of deep, self-less love.

This is why we can always rest in the goodness of genuine beauty.

Pornography doesn’t offer rest, it provides temporary orgasmic relief which — once it is experienced — simply restarts the whole process of craving.

The result of this futility is anxiety, anger, frustration and more envy — just to name a few.

The deception of pornography is all the more powerful because of its subtlety.

The woman on display has beauty and it is enchanting. She is, after all, made in the image of God, and no pornographer can extinguish that fact. But her beauty is being corrupted by the fact that, rather than cherishing that beauty, pornography gives it away as part of the commodification of that woman’s body.

Men are drawn in, for that is what beauty does; it invites. But it is tarnished, because selfish consumerism destroys genuine beauty. The man looks at her only to devour; therefore, he is not there to love.

When love is absent, self-centeredness rules. When self-centeredness rules, beauty is sacrificed to appease that god.

One reason why pornography never satisfies is because of this:

We do not want, merely, to see beauty, though, God knows, that is bounty enough. We want something else which can hardly be put into words — to be united with the beauty we see, to pass into it, to receive it into ourselves, to bathe in it, to become part of it.” 

~ C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory

Yet none of that is possible with pornography. We cannot receive into ourselves beauty when it has been brutalized by the envy of pornography.

 

 

 

 

 

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