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Michael Cusick On The Cruel Irony Of Porn

Michael John Cusick’s book Surfing for God is essential reading for anyone dealing with compulsive sexual behavior. Or for those who love someone who struggles with it.

Michael has been writing a blog series on the lies that undergird porn addiction.  Today’s post talks about the cruel irony of porn.

i  love the way he talks so honestly about his struggles as a young man in high school. i really relate to Michael’s situation which he describes this way:

I was simply too terrified to move toward a girl with any kind of passion.

Unwilling to put my budding masculines strength on the line by pursuing any kind of romantic involvement, I played the role of the safe guy. One of the guys who could relate to girls as a friend, make them laugh, but never be expected to move toward them romantically.

As long as I was the safe guy, I could have my cake and eat it too.

All the while, Michael was longing for relational connection with girls.

The use of pornography and masturbation short circuited that longing — as it does in all of us — to the point that we feel less and less able to develop healthy, meaningful relationships the more we indulge.

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