One of the main characters on ABC’s show Nashville, Deacon, struggles with alcohol addiction. Tonight that addiction featured prominently in the storyline and the writers did a good job of depicting what triggers addictive behaviors, as well as what it’s like when an addict gives in to it.
Heavy relational stresses and a serious of painful disappointments push Deacon over the edge and he goes back to the bottle. He goes hard.
The tailspin every addict knows is well represented. Various painful situations trigger a run back to the addiction in search of comfort. Indulgence leads to rash behavior fueled by anger, hurting other people as well as himself. In Deacon’s case, physical violence is involved. Loved ones intervene and are met with rage. Deacon sobers up and promises his sponsor he will go to an AA meeting, but that turns out to be a lie. More indulgence. More relational destruction and then a tragic accident.
The abyss into which Deacon falls applies to all addictions no matter what the type.
For the porn addict, there may be more secrecy than in Deacon’s case, but the triggers, the anger, the deception and the relational consequences are very similar. When i was in my addiction i hurt people, i let people down, i missed important work duties, i lost.
Running to our addictions for comfort always leads to disaster. For the porn addict, at least the ones who are relatively skilled at juggling the addiction with an appearance of normal life, hiding the mess may be possible for a while. But the damage porn addiction does to your soul will pollute every interaction with every person in your life. And there is no comfort in that.