In my marriage we call it The Confession. It was the moment when, against my will, i admitted to my secret life of porn indulgence. It had marked my life prior to — and for more than 9 years of — our marriage.
The power of that moment, The Confession, cannot be overstated.
The power that has gone out into and through my life, like the ripples on a pond after you throw in a rock, has been profound and incalculable as well.
Purity has hidden power.
Culturally, purity has a bad reputation.
What sells is wild, sexy, alluring and The Forbidden — even though we as a culture aren’t really sure if anyting actually is forbidden anymore.
But the power of Purity is this: nothing feels as good as being clean does. To be cleansed. To have no dark corner of your soul that you cannot talk about with someone like your wife, or a close friend. To know the freedom of a clear conscience.
These things are truly powerful.
And staying pure carries power as well.
The misinformation we get all the time is that purity is boring and miserable. Not true. It was only after i stopped looking at porn and began pursuing a clean life that i actually experienced true beauty; real strength, authentic adventure; healthy relationships; and legitimate purpose in life.
Porn had been the trap that masqueraded as freedom. Porn had been the false promise of life that actually took years of my life from me, including some of the physically strongest years i had to offer.
Porn will always steal from you, it is — after all — some of The Thief’s most crafty work.
Purity is power because that which is impure corrupts our souls. It’s like the proverbial fly in the ointment, or sand that gets into an engine — only the significance in terms of our souls is much greater.
There is always grace, which is crucial when living in an impure world. So we continued to rely on that grace, knowing that our ability to hear God; our ability to follow in the path of life all come from a power that is connected to Purity — that is, the washing of Jesus that makes us clean.