Charisma Magazine ran a piece recently in which Kenny Luck used “Sexual Atheism” to describe the practical reality that exists for many Christians today. Luck is the founder of Every Man Ministries and he’s the men’s pastor at Saddleback Church.
In short, the term “Sexual Atheism” means that Christians live as though God has nothing to say regarding sexuality and especially how sexuality is expressed in a dating relationship.
When i was living in my porn and lust addiction, i was — practically speaking — a Sexual Atheist. In my book i refer to myself — in those days — as a practical atheist.
The only difference between myself and the Christians about whom Luck writes is that back then i would have said the “right” thing when talking about sexuality with others. That may have actually made matters worse. It was just more hiding.
As to “Sexual Atheism,” Luck writes:
While Christian singles report praying and church attendance are highly desirable qualities in the dating matrix, a troubling and confusing dichotomy arises when the issue of sex before marriage presents itself. Specifically, single Christians enter a sexual fog. That fog clouds and hides the reality that an identity rooted in Christ should manifest itself in intelligent and hope-filled sexual restraint based on God’s promises and instead replaces it with fear and pride-filled choices based on some other promise they believe more.
In a recent study conducted by ChristianMingle.com, Christian singles between the ages of 18 to 59 were asked, “Would you have sex before marriage?” The response? Sixty-three percent of the single Christian respondents indicated yes.
Moreover, Luck says:
To say that professing or self-described Christians are becoming more liberal means that their reference point for assessing and practicing sexuality is more cultural and personal rather than biblical or spiritual. It means that they possess a low view of God and Scripture and a high view of self and culture as the key drivers of their moral and sexual behavior.
Luck hits the nail on the head when he says that Christians possess a high view of self and culture as the key drivers of their moral and sexual behavior. Our culture increasingly values pornography and its approach to sexual expression.
Luck is saying that Christians have adopted the ways of the world regarding sexuality, which means the Church is being pornified as Christians are shaped by cultural attitudes on sexuality.
This is why 50 percent of Christian men and 20 percent of Christian women identify themselves as heavily involved with pornography to the point it would be considered an addiction.
Sexual behavior — whether it’s in the form of pornography and lust, or if it’s expressed in a physical relationship — reveals what we really believe about God and our relationship to Him.
Ultimately, sexual behavior in our time has become a god of its own. Sadly, many Christians have given themselves to this false god. And as with idolatry of any kind, the “worshippers” suffer.