There is a piece of ancient wisdom which always needs to guide us as we walk the masculine journey, particularly when the journey involves a brotherhood of men working together to have the courage to be brutally honest with one another.
It has implications for accountability, certainly, as there is a tendency in our flesh to hide things. But there is also another reality: many times we don’t even know all that is stirring deep within our hearts.
It takes a man of understanding to draw out the deep things in our hearts. Even better when there is a group of men to do this for each other.
The other night at our men’s gathering, the brother sharing the deep things, including suicide, didn’t start by talking about that — it had to be drawn out of him.
The more we asked questions and prayed, the more clarity we were able to get about what was going on behind the scenes. Often we want to minimize the gravity of our situation, in order to avoid dealing with the real pain.
That’s when we need men of understanding to decipher things and draw out of us the deeper reality.